What Kind of Therapist Are You?

Often people ask me this question: What kind of therapist are you?

My mind starts thinking in lists— lists of skills. My training and experience. The kinds of clients I see. The technical stuff.   

These things are important. And yet, for a moment, I’d like to turn off the list. 

Things become quieter, calmer. 

If I really listen to myself, I would rather answer this: What do you believe in?

Because this— this question and this answer— is how you will ultimately find your therapist match.

So, Jennifer.  

What do you believe in?

I believe it’s always okay to ask for extra support. 

I believe we will hurt, sometimes in the most raw and vulnerable ways. I believe this pain will ease— even when it appears to have set up its home. 

I believe, very fiercely, that we heal. 

I believe in science and I believe in finding meaning that science cannot explain. 

I believe in the details of someone’s life and someone’s face. 

I believe feeling understood can give us bursts of strength. And that these bursts can carry us through many, many things.

I believe in poetry and nature. I believe people do the best they can. I believe in grief, joy, fear and love. That we can hold it all. 

That we can— and do— get better.

Warmly,

Jenny